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The Masculine Institute's avatar

Regal, intelligent and wise, as always Tara!!

I love the graphic!!

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Tara's avatar

😊💗🙏

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The last cigarette before bed's avatar

I love your points, approaches, and self-awareness to take in the information and emotional content then transmute it into something else entirely that serves you and your audience.

It is wise, strong, and beautiful to witness the ideas and principles being put into practice. I can feel the warmth, grace, and compassion in all the above so readily in your words.

It's an interesting point you raise about the 'white knight' dynamic. I've only seen it create more drama and friction than actual resolution with the Trolls and Dragons. Plus there is possible backlash from the author if it's assuming too much in this online parasocial setting.

I'm never sure what the etiquette or genuine response is except to silently witness and stand in one's own truth or perspective vis-a-vis the point a troll-bot maybe trying to make. Luckily, it's always pretty obvious they're bleeding out from their own insecurities anyhow.

Love the Kill Bill vibe in the photo!

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Tara's avatar

Aw thanks so much Lance!💗

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Dr. Lissette Alvarez-Holland's avatar

Thank you for sharing this experience. This response must be heightened in the air as I had a similar pop out video I shared on another platform speaking about women being mirrors for men more and gosh, did that suggestion bring out the challenge of re embracing feminine authority in men. I come from the space of mixing the biosocial and energetic dances we must figure out so it was helpful and inspires me to explore ways to empower the women with ways to respond and navigate the triggers of men without taking the bait of mirroring them.

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Leaving Art School's avatar

Fuel ⛽ is the best use for hate. Use it to fuel your success. It doesn't have anything to do with you, it's only an admission from the haters revealing the darkness they are projecting through onto you, it's not your truth, it's theirs.

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Tara's avatar

I agree. Thank you😊

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♡  𝕍𝕀𝔾𝕆ℝ ℂ𝔸𝕃𝕄𝔸  ♡'s avatar

The guardian option, who, like the taster of kings and queens, first checks whether something is truly meant for you and is nutritious, is actually the healthiest option.

There's also a simple, nuanced version: if someone says "you" without connecting it with a question, it's most likely projection(and 'proof' that there is no desire or interest in communication, only a need for having one's opinions validated) In other words, an attempt to misuse you as a projection surface. My experience has shown that in this case, they almost always mean someone other than me. Perhaps I reminded my counterpart of something, or of someone, but when they say "you," they mean someone who isn't present, and after an initial moment of surprise (even shock), I can take a relatively relaxed step back and acknowledge the anger, the annoyance, the frustration. Because, despite the attempt to hurl it at me, it actually has nothing to do with me. Or to put it another way: it's not my problem, no matter how hard they try to make their problems mine.

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Mark Meier's avatar

Very good. Wonderful. To make it more fun, could I hire you as a personal bodyguard with the cheese slicer? You write wonderfully. Very spot on. Those that don't, can't or won't open up.

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